About Lisa Jacobs


Lisa is dedicated to using the collaborative process to help resolve disputes. As a peacemaker licensed to practice law in Hawaii for the past 22 years, Lisa possesses a unique combination of strong legal advocacy, artful negotiation, outstanding case management, deep listening, superior oral and written communication skills, mediation, facilitation, and collaboration-inspired problem solving methods, to provide top-notch service to her clients. Lisa’s persistence and vision to grow Collaborative Divorce Practice to serve Hawaii’s families resulted in her being awarded a scholarship to attend the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals’ 14th Annual Networking and Educational Forum in San Antonio, Texas.  Lisa’s passion and commitment to developing Collaborative Divorce Practice was demonstrated when she created, coordinated, and facilitated a two-day Collaborative Divorce Basic Interdisciplinary Training, which was instrumental in training a total of 26 attorneys, mental health and financial professionals to join and participate in the Collaborative Divorce Hawaii Practice Group (CDHPG), for which she is a member.  Lisa was also instrumental in developing and implementing a new website for the CDHPG, which is helping to spread awareness about the existence of Collaborative Divorce Practice in Hawaii.

Lisa has successfully mediated dozens of disputes as either a Collaborative Attorney or Mediator and has participated in a total of over 350 hours of Collaborative Divorce and Mediation training. In addition to her Collaborative Divorce Attorney and Mediator practices, Lisa is a Mediator at the Mediation Center of the Pacific (MCP), where she focuses on mediating divorce, parenting plans, and post-divorce cases.

Lisa also trains both budding and experienced Mediators and Collaborative Divorce professionals.  She served as Assistant Mediation Trainer Intern to a 40-hour, 5 day Basic Divorce Mediation Training in Los Angeles lead by internationally-known Mediator and Trainer Forrest “Woody” Mosten and continues to mentor its graduates in a monthly virtual mediation study group.  She also served as a co-trainer for a multi-day Collaborative Divorce Team Training in Wailea on the Island of Maui.

Lisa received training in Collaborative Divorce practice by internationally-recognized Collaborative Divorce attorney-practitioner and trainer, Pauline H. Tesler. Lisa has also participated in numerous mediation trainings at the Mediation Center of the Pacific and the Pacific Center for Collaboration. Lisa offers Collaborative Divorce Lawyering and Collaborative Mediation services via Skype online technology.  She was actively involved with the Virtual Mediation Lab as an Online Mediator and worked collaboratively with mediators from around the globe. Lisa assisted an internationally-known mediator and creator of the Virtual Mediation Lab, Giuseppe Leone, present a forum on using Skype technology to conduct online mediation sessions. Lisa regularly worked with Giuseppe to enhance online mediation methods and educate mediators in utilizing Skype technology.  As part of this process, Lisa helped Giuseppe produce four mediation educational videos, including a divorce online mediation and a mediation using the innovative Transformative Mediation model.  Lisa has also received over 50 hours of training in various facilitation methods, including Compassionate, Non-Violent Communication and Anger Management, which she incorporates into her work with her clients.

Lisa also performed worked as a Lay Minister and Lay Chaplain, which serves her Collaborative Divorce Attorney and Mediator roles perfectly. As a Lay Minister and Lay Leader at The First Unitarian Church of Honolulu for 16 years, Lisa was recognized as the go-to person for coordinating and facilitating meetings of all sizes dealing with diverse issues. Lisa has facilitated over 160 meetings, with the number of participants ranging from 3 to 148 people. Lisa’s ability to facilitate and collaborate group meetings and achieve resolution consistently exceeded 90 percent agreement rates. She successfully mentored over 30 teenagers and their families about social, education, and health concerns as they navigated high school and commenced entering adulthood, always maintaining confidentiality, encouraging family collaboration, and respecting choices and decisions.

Lisa volunteered as a Lay Chaplain for patients and families utilizing the services of Hospice Hawaii. The end of a marriage through divorce can be as traumatic as the end of a marriage due to death of a spouse, and Lisa has invaluable experience in handling both of these events with empathy, patience, and compassion.

Lisa previously worked as the civilian Supervisory Attorney Advisor at the Naval Legal Service Office at Pearl Harbor, where serving as Civil Law Department Head leading the Legal Assistance and Claims Adjudication Divisions, she managed a staff of 11 consisting of active-duty Judge Advocate General attorneys, legalmen, and civilian paralegals. Also there, Lisa specialized in Family Law, where she assisted and educated over 1,800 service members and their families navigate the processes of obtaining an uncontested divorce, saving clients thousands of dollars in legal fees. She also gave over 50 seminars on Hawaii Divorce Basics, which educated over 750 active-duty servicemembers and their families about divorce processes.  Additionally, Lisa represented adoption clients in Hawaii Family Court, leading to successful adoptions of 26 minor children. Lisa also gave more than 100 presentations pertaining to Family Law issues at the Family Service Center at Pearl Harbor. Lisa also used her solid Family Estate Planning expertise to assist over 2,100 estate planning clients plan more effectively for future events. In recognition of her tireless efforts to manage the delivery of high-quality legal services to a large population of active duty military servicepersons and their families, Lisa received the Civilian of the Year award for the year 2000.

Lisa also practiced as an Associate Attorney at Goodsill Anderson Quinn & Stifel, where she handled civil litigation, real property, and immigration law cases.  During law school, Lisa served as a Judicial Extern Law Clerk for Chief Judge Thelton E. Henderson of the United States District Court in San Francisco, California. Prior to attending law school, Lisa worked as a Paralegal for the Legal Aid Society of Hawaii, where she represented clients in Hawaii Department of Human Services Fair Hearings and prepared Proposed Findings of Fact and Conclusions of Law. There, she also helped over 120 clients with legal triage support.

Lisa serves as President of the Hawaii Chapter of the Association for Conflict Resolution (ACR Hawaii).  The mission of ACR Hawaii is sponsor alternative dispute resolution-related trainings and events to enhance the development of Peacemakers not only locally, but also on the U.S. mainland and internationally.  Lisa is also Co-Chair of the Alternative Dispute Resolution Section of the Hawaii State Bar Association.

Lisa is blessed with a wonderful adult son from her first marriage, which ended in divorce. Lisa and her former husband have remained amicable for the sake of their son, who is now fully grown. After her divorce, Lisa met her husband David through a mutual friend. Lisa and David have been happily married since 1996, and they have two daughters.  Lisa has been a resident of Oahu for over 23 years. She enjoys practicing Tai Chi, Qi Gong, and hiking and backpacking with David and friends.

Practice Areas:

  • Collaborative Divorce – in role as Attorney aligned with one spouse
  • Collaborative Divorce Mediation – in role as impartial Mediator
  • Legal Coaching, Consulting, and Document Drafting
  • Post-Nuptial Agreements – in role as Attorney to one spouse
  • Collaborative Marriage and Relationship Planning
  • Marital and Relationship Mediation – in role as impartial Mediator


Santa Clara University School of Law, Santa Clara, California — Juris Doctorate degree (J.D.), May 1994

  • Scholarship Recipient, Law Faculty Scholarship, 1991-1994.
  • Comments Editor, Santa Clara Law Review, 1993-1994.
  • Authored and published Santa Clara Law Review articled titled, “Substantive Penal Hate Crime Legislation:  Toward Defining Constitutional Guidelines Following The R.A.V. v. City of St. Paul and Wisconsin v. Mitchell Decisions,” 34 Santa Clara Law Review 711 (1994).
  • Officer, Santa Clara University School of Law Honors Moot Court Board, 1993-1994.
  • Received Honorable Mention in American Bar Association Negotiation Competition, Fall 1993.
  • Presented seminar on alternative dispute resolution techniques entitled, “The Civil Justice Reform Act: Alternative Dispute Resolution Techniques in the United States District Court for the Northern District of California,” Fall 1993.
  • Recipient, American Jurisprudence Award in Estate Planning, Spring 1994.
  • Received perfect score on final exam for Lawyers’ Professional Responsibility Course, Spring 1994.

Santa Clara University, Santa Clara, California — Bachelor of Arts Degree (B.A.),  Major:  Communication (Print Emphasis), December 1988

  • Managing Editor, The Santa Clara weekly campus newspaper, 1986-1988.


Admitted to Practice:

  • Supreme Court of Hawaii, November 1994
  • United States District Court, District of Hawaii, November 1994


Memberships and Affiliations:

  • Hawaii State Bar Association
  • Hawaii Chapter of the Association for Conflict Resolution
  • Alternative Dispute Resolution Section of the Hawaii State Bar Association
  • Collaborative Divorce Professionals Study Group, Honolulu, Hawaii
  • Collaborative Divorce Hawaii Practice Group
  • International Academy of Collaborative Professionals 
  • Family Law Section of the Hawaii State Bar Association
  • Hawaii Women Lawyers, Hawaii State Bar Association


Professional and Civic Activities:

  • Mediator, Mediation Center of the Pacific, Honolulu, Hawaii
  • Attorney-Mediator, www.Wevorce.com
  • Co-Chair, Alternative Dispute Resolution Section of the Hawaii State Bar Association, Honolulu, Hawaii
  • President, Hawaii Chapter of the Association of Conflict Resolution, Honolulu, Hawaii
  • Assistant Mediation Trainer Intern, Mosten Mediation Services, Los Angeles, CA
  • Co-Founder, Collaborative Divorce Professionals Study Group, Honolulu, Hawaii
  • Co-Founder and Facilitator, Coaching and Counseling Collaborative Mastermind Group, Honolulu, Hawaii
  • Assistant Facilitator, Pacific Center for Collaboration
  • Workshop Presenter on Collaborative Divorce and Mediation 
  • Keynote Speaker on Nonviolent, Compassionate Communication
  • Volunteer Program Coordinator, Family Promise of Hawaii, Honolulu, Hawaii
  • Former Online Mediator, Virtual Mediation Lab, Honolulu, Hawaii
  • Former Facilitator, Advisory Board Member & Wellness Conference Co-Chair, Sunrise Ministry Foundation, Honolulu, Hawaii
  • Former Lay Minister, Teacher, Vice-President, Trustee, Group Facilitator & Outreach Coordinator, First Unitarian Church of Honolulu
  • Former Lay Chaplain, Hospice Hawaii, Honolulu, Hawaii
  • Former Teaching Assistant & Past-President, Parent Participation Nursery School, Kailua, Hawaii
  • Former Volunteer Facilitator, Kids First Program, Hawaii Family Court, Honolulu, Hawaii