Re-structure your marital relationship in a constructive, compassionate, child-centered way: collaboratively.

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Offering Collaborative Divorce and Mediation Services Throughout Hawaii to Re-structure Families more Peacefully and Pono.

In an ideal world here in Hawaii, marital relationships could remain healthily intact throughout the lifetime of one of the spouses, but unfortunately and realistically in today’s stressful and ever-changing world, that phenomenon is not very common.

When spouses’ expectations remain unmet and attempts to reconcile are unsuccessful, too often couples perceive that they are trapped, and are left with having to choose the lesser of two bad options:  (1) either remain in an unhappy marital relationship, either for the sake of the children, or to avoid having to address challenging marital financial issues; or (2) facing fear, hurt, and anger, many often feel a need to “get as much as they can” in a divorce. Some examples of this in a traditional court-centered litigation paradigm are that adversarial-minded family law attorneys go to court with zero-sum objectives such as the following: (1) to obtain “more” of the marital property (which too often fails to address the needs of both spouses in a fair manner); or (2) to be awarded more “rights” with respect to parenting the children, in effect, to try to “punish” the other parent. Proceeding in any of these ways (even the party who “wins” in court) will leave every individual involved in this marital and family system feeling miserable, and relationships permanently destroyed, when circumstances should not and need not result in such damaging outcomes.

My name is Lisa Jacobs. I am a Collaborative Divorce Attorney & Mediator, and am here to help.  If marriages cannot be fixed so both spouses remain happy together, my mission is to contribute my efforts to make every divorce a Pono Divorce.

Collaborative Divorce is a values-centered method where the parties in a case, along with me as one of two collaborative divorce attorneys, pledge to resolve their differences outside of court, and promise to deal fairly with each other, and with full and timely disclosure of information, which will facilitate the resolution of the matter. I proudly devote 100% of my practice as a peacemaking attorney or mediator, which is the hallmark of the Collaborative Divorce process and I do not accept any divorce-related litigation in my practice, because I feel passionately that it is the better way for couples with children or with complex financial marital estates to re-structure their relationships. Collaborative divorce practice is also interdisciplinary and holistic, and embraces the expertise of professionals such as therapist coaches, child specialists, and financial expert neutrals, which supplements the legal expertise of me as one of your family’s collaborative attorneys. The time and meticulous attention that your collaborative professional team will devote on you and your spouse’s matter is an investment that will reap benefits that will last for the rest of your lives. If you are viewing my website from your desktop or laptop computer, please check out this e-brochure on Collaborative Divorce — use your right-forward arrow key to read the e-brochure, and your left-back arrow key to turn back to the front cover of the e-brochure.  You may have heard of the phrase “conscious uncoupling,” which refers to the process of Collaborative Divorce.

I am also a trained and experienced Divorce Mediator.  Mediation is a dispute resolution where a mediator, or neutral third party, facilitates communication between two parties, in order for the parties to reach their own agreement. While mediation for some divorce cases may be relatively brief, in more complex cases, it makes sense to have a team work with you and your spouse to help arrive at creative, deep, and lasting solutions. Some have coined this team-based method of dispute resolution “Collaborative Divorce Mediation,” and in select cases, I offer my services as a collaborative mediator (instead of a collaborative attorney) who works closely with a divorce coach and a financial expert neutral when collaborative mediation seems to be the more appropriate option for the couple.

Huge advantages of both collaborative divorce and collaborative mediation are that they are both non-public and confidential ways to resolve your issues. In addition, the reality is is that Family Court judges have so many cases before them that they simply cannot devote the amount of attention on your case as I can, either as your Collaborative Attorney or Collaborative Mediator.

My involvement with the collaborative divorce movement was featured in the Honolulu Star Advertiser newspaper on August 13, 2013, with the headline, “State law offers more collaborative divorce process.” Click here to read full article (subscription required).

Also, below I am featured in two interviews about Collaborative Divorce: The first video was shot in September 2014 for the “Legal Advice in Paradise” podcast, which was founded and is hosted by Justine Gronwald.  Joining Justine and me is Dr. Greg Yuen, who is a Collaborative Mental Health Professional.  The second video was recorded in March 2013 with ThinkTech Hawaii’s Founder and President, Jay Fidell.

I invite you to continue viewing my website.  Encourage your spouse to view it as well to become educated on Collaborative Divorce and Collaborative Mediation. I hope that the information provided on my website answers your questions and alleviates many of the concerns and fears that you may have in moving forward.   Call me today at (808) 263-6299, or email me at Lisa@PonoDivorce.com, to schedule a consultation meeting, so we can discuss your unique situation. I am based on the Windward Side of Oahu, but I serve clients on all of the Hawaiian Islands using Skype technology and can even help parties resolve disputes using their mobile phones. It will be a true pleasure for me to serve your needs and also those of your entire family.